Menopausal Mother of the Bride Takes It Lying Down – Decompress to Destress

My daughter Jess was over this afternoon and insisted that I change the cover photo on my hormone consulting site: Your Hormone Balance (www.yourhormonebalance.com) to this one below…tell me, do I look like I’m in balance?

ImageActually this pic was taken the day after Jess got married …and that is me, the formerly shattered, out of balance, menopausal mother of the bride, ensuite at the Nines Hotel in Portland, a gift of dear friends who weeks before the wedding sent a lifeline..if you and Dave perchance could use a “decompression chamber” after W day we’d love to gift you a night at the NINES … interested? A full 3 seconds later I had forsaken my filial obligations for ME myself and I-time! What better way to destress but to decompress in style, and just let it all go: the internal chatter, the planning, the worrying over who might not speak to whom, or not show up, or go missing ….

So how does one regain balance when summer is done, the days are growing dark, your kids are married and moved away and you’re an empty nester now, a woman of une certain age still seeking balance in head, heart and hormones….what do you do?

Contemplating the message of balance at ground level beneath the third tallest tower in the world: Guangzhou City

Contemplating the message of balance at ground level beneath the third tallest tower in the world: Guangzhou City


You practice what you preach, that’s what you do! You calm down and carry on:
-cleanse your mind and body with outdoor exercise every day you can get out there (and when the weather turns gray take your Vitamin D3)
-walk the excess weight off, rain or shine
-strength train your way back to strong and lean
-ingest healthy, hormone-free foods, pure water, plenty of fiber and fresh vegetables and fruits (most Americans eat half as many vegetables and fruits as we should, that being 4 or more servings a day)
-detox to give your gut a break from overconsumption of caffeine, sugar and bad fats – as all who are following Kyle on her cleansing fast this week are doing, and bravo to you! 0

To truly deeply decompress you will need to block (especially before bedtime) the blue light beaming into your retina from an avalanche of electronic media we expose ourselves to (an estimated 7+ hours a day), those seemingly benign blue rays that raise stress hormones and deplete sleep hormones. No more taking your IPhone to bed with you. Sink into a warm bath instead, or slip into your comfiest clothes, light the candles, rub in your bioidentical hormones, and FLOP… on an aquamarine velveteen couch should one appear, or wherever you can Str-r-r-etch. Sigh. And B-R-E-A-T-H-E out all that good and bad stress in one big WHOOOSH … keep breathing and whooshing, deep and focused, to release the tension you’ve been holding in your body, dislodge the clutter in your mind, and clear your path back to balance!

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2 responses to “Menopausal Mother of the Bride Takes It Lying Down – Decompress to Destress

  1. Lovely reminder Candace of the ways to destress and take care of ME!! This is such a common theme amongst women particularly. There is something that happens to women who transition through menopause and into empty nesting(if they had chicks to care for in the first place, that is…) who one day wake up and think: “Wow, I get time for ME now: what to do???”
    It happened to me somewhat as my first-born flew away to college but it REALLY happened when my second child flew the nest 2 plus years ago. I had dreaded that moment for years but honestly, by working my way back to balance(getting into tennis, onto a walking team, reconnecting with friends and interests), I feel younger and more energetic now than the years I tried to balance career, family and me. So ladies: strive for balance each and every day. Know that some days you will be off, but don’t let that discourage you! Keep trying and follow the hints that Candace lined out(plus the many others we have suggested in previous blog posts) and you will get there!
    Oh, and by the way, I start on my ‘consciousness cleanse’ NEXT Sunday, November 17th: and I will be done in time to feast in gratitude on that wonderful holiday of Thanksgiving. More to follow this week.

    • candacebwell

      Thanks Kyle! I look forward to hearing more about your consciousness cleanse and jumping on board soon as I am back from the Obesity Week conference in Atlanta…what an incentive that will be!

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